FemDom (Female Domination) is a sexual form of power exchange between a Domme and her sub. It involves a dominant woman sexually controlling her submissive partner.
Whether through sensuality, commands, training, or other means, the female Domme uses her power to make the submissive man fulfill her desires.
Anything from from simple tasks to more extreme activities are on the table with consent. It is a type of BDSM relationship that is erotic and self-fullfilling for all parties.
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It’s natural to be attracted to a dominant woman. If you are or think you’re a submissive man, and you want to learn more, keep reading.
How to Tell if a Woman Is Dominant?
Are you curious about how to tell if a woman is dominant? Because Dominance comes in so many shapes, it’s hard to tell. It’s only true definition is in the desire to exchange power.
If you’ve never experienced a power exchange before, it’ll be hard for you to tell. As a Dominant woman, you wouldn’t be able to tell by looking at me. I have a sweet face, and people say that my smile is nice.
However, things are a little different in private. 😉 We’ll learn more about that, or you can scroll to the end if you are… curious.
Back to Observing Dominant Women
Look for signs of self-confidence, certainty, and decision making.
Dominant women tend to be confident in their own power, and may not be afraid to express themselves in a direct and assertive manner. She may also be comfortable discussing her sexual desires and kinks openly.
Of course, it’s important to remember that everyone is unique and that not all women who are dominant will show the same signs.
Finding a FemDom in-person and the right online Female Domme is tricky. However, men’s natural ability to find hot women is ingrained in their very psyche; you’ll figure it out. 😉
It’s best to take the time to get to know the person in question before making any assumptions.
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How to Tell If You’re a Submissive Man?
The desire to relinquish control, autonomy, and pride is most common. However, it’s also common to be curious. That curiosity will take you down some interesting roads, and as a Dominant woman, I can’t wait to hear about your perversions.
Think of it like this:
- Do you want to be Dominated sexually?
- Does the thought of following orders turn you on?
- Are you more comfortable letting someone else make decisions for you?
- Do successful women get you hard?
- Are you horny when a dominant woman is mean to you?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, you may be a submissive man. Welcome to the world of BDSM. Keep exploring to learn more.
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Where Can I Find an Online FemDom?
Start with researching BDSM and FemDom. (Oh hey, you’re already here lol.)
If you’re confident that you want to be a subby boy, I suggest joining social media, newsletters, blogs, and forums that revolve around the FemDom lifestyle.
Dedicated FemDom Sites
One of the best places to start is by visiting dedicated FemDom websites. These are typically full of hot professional or amateur photos that showcase Domme in question. Many of these sexy websites feature an online store that allows you to browse her services such as sexting, clips, video or phone call, and more.
The BDSM Community
You can also find FemDom communities online, including Reddit or FetLife. Join a vast community of like-minded people to discuss your kinks and fetishes (vanilla topics are welcome too!). You can also find events and gatherings, as well as useful advice from experienced FemDommes.
YouTube
Another great resource is YouTube. Here, you’ll find countless videos from FemDom influencers, as well as previews for their next XXX clip. Use dedicated FemDom YouTube channels to subscribe to their content.
Get a good feel for how to speak to a Goddess or Mistress before approaching. First impressions count the most in BDSM, and your usual “hi” isn’t going to break much ground.
The Beauty of FemDom Blogs
As FemDom creators, sometimes our likes are too… heavy for our paysites. It’s common for Dommes with extreme kinks and fetishes to have a website. That way, we can get in touch with our taboo fans without risking being banned on our paysite.
FemDom blogs are a perfect resource for submissive men as they look for a sexy Domme to serve. They offer some sexy insight into different aspects of their future Domme’s preferences, helping subs better understand how to approach.
A male sub interested in a Domme should subscribe to her blog. Use it to see if your needs and fetishes align. Additionally, blogs can provide subs with advice on how to accept their subservient nature with an online Domme..
It was very common for some FemDom creators to run a blog. About a decade ago before social media, coming across a Female Domme’s blog wasn’t unheard of. Now, the average Twitter Domme doesn’t run a blog, but they’re still out there. (Example: me)
How to Approach a Female Domme Online
The first step to approach a powerful woman is to research her kinks and turn-ons. Read her social media profile or blog, or ask her directly (a tribute may be required).
Once you have a better understanding of her likes and dislikes, tailor your approach to meet her standards.
Always remember:
- Respect her time and boundaries
- Expect to tribute
- Ask questions to get to know her
- Demonstrate that you understand her lifestyle and interests
- Share your own interests and experiences
- If she wants to play, be open to her particular style
- Show your sincerity
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Avoid Catfishing: The Importance of Verification
Verifying a FemDom creator is incredibly important in order to ensure the safety and security of any online interaction. Be aware of the potential for catfishing, as this is a common practice used to exploit submissive men for their money (in a not-sexy way).
Use FemDom paysites, as this will ensure that their identity has been validated and that the creator is who they say they are. Paying for a service is also a good way to ensure that the creator is verified and that any exchange of money is done through a secure payment system.
Additionally, verifying an online FemDom creator helps to ensure that the individual is not trying to scam anyone, as any payments made will be secure and can be tracked.
Catfishers may use false information, steal captions, photographs, and other personal details to lure in unsuspecting victims. Be aware the latest scams to stay safe.
Verification Steps:
- Click her paysite links. (All reputable paysites take government ID.)
- Verify that they are connected to her social media.
- See if her pictures match her profile photo and social media.
- Look for watermarks that match the creator’s username.
- Try a reverse image search to identify catfishes.
- Only taking payment on PayPal, CashApp, and Venmo is a scam 90% of the time.
How Can a Powerful Woman Dominate a Submissive Man?
It depends on your preferences and the FemDom you choose.
Powerful women dominate submissive men most often by using techniques such as:
- Cuckolding
- Submissive tasks
- Mind fucking
- Hypnosis
- Humiliation
The possibilities don’t stop there. Those are just some of my favorites. *mwah* Here are more of my likes and dislikes if you’re curious. (link)
At the very basis of Dominance and submission, you serve, and she leads. Once you both communicate your boundaries and preferences, it’s free game. Be ready for the experience and truly ready to serve. Nobody likes a sub who tops from the bottom.
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What Types of Services Do Online FemDoms Offer?
Online female Dommes offer a variety of services to their submissives. They range from providing companionship and emotional support to a much sexier form on play.
Every medium is possible with Female Domination. Sexting, camming, phone calls, video calls, clips; if there’s a horny and interested sub, there’s a way.
Femdoms commonly offer a range of kinks such as role play, humiliation, bondage, cuckolding, domination, and submissive services.
Roleplay is when a FemDom and her submissive act out a hot fantasy in a scene. The kinky scenarios might look like:
- Teacher/student
- Doctor/patient
- Therapist/patient
- Mommy roleplay
Humiliation is another type of service commonly provided by female Dommes. Think verbal, physical, or emotional humiliation.
Cuckolding includes a sexually promiscuous woman having sexual relations with someone other than her sub while he watches. This is usually done to humiliate or degrade the him, and it can be a sexually intense experience.
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Start Serving Hot Women Online
Being a sub and serving online Dommes can be a rewarding and fulfilling if done right.
We’ve already figured out how to find Dommes, connect with them, follow their rules, and learn your interests. My final piece of advice:
Make sure that you understand the terms of the arrangement and feel comfortable with the rules she has in place.
Once you choose an online Domme, you should be prepared to make a commitment to them. That might be sending tributes, sending gifts, and/or participating in communication.
Start building that connection, and put your best foot forward.
At this point, you should be prepared to serve them. This may include doing tasks or assignments, such as writing essays or doing research, or providing emotional support.
Be available when needed, and be responsive to your Domme’s requests. Otherwise, she may get offended at your lack of dedication.
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