How to Spot a Catfish on NSFW Social Media

Learning how to spot a catfish on NSFW social media is essential. Fans of adult content creators, submissive men, and people who pay for adult services should know the basics.

Too often, my male subs express how they were scammed or catfished by fake FemDom creators.

It makes me sad to hear. Unfortunately, I can’t do much about catfishing outside of spreading the word.

So, here’s my advice to submissive men (and anyone else!). If you’ve been:

• Scammed
• A victim of sexual extortion
• Catfished
• Had issues with payment processing
  • Credit cards, PayPal, or other payment providers blocking your cards

…this article is for you. It is a long read. Read the table of contents to find the most relevant information to your situation.

How to Spot Common Catfish Scams

Catfish scam accounts pose as FemDom or adult content creators. They have two goals:

• Convince you that they are real.
• Steal your money.

On NSFW social media, they are too common. Best case scenario, you lose a few bucks; and worst case scenario, they will threaten you. Knowing how to spot a catfish keeps your money in the hands of Dommes who deserve it.

Addressing Shame After Being Scammed

It’s a kneejerk reaction to call someone stupid for falling for a catfish social media account, but I don’t think that’s true.

The Time I Almost Lost $5000

The first time was a fake check scam. Somebody posing as your boss sends you a check, tells you to cash it, and send the money to them. However, the money is fake, and you don’t know it.

When you cash the fake check and the money bounces on your bank account. The bank will take the money that bounced out of your account. If you sent the money to the scammer, then you owe the difference.

Thankfully, somebody caught me and told me about the common scam before I lost the $5,000.

The Time I Spent an Hour on a Free Video Call

The second time I got scammed, it was on the website SkyPrivate. The way that their site works is, a customer video calls you on Skype, and their tool automatically takes the money from their online wallet.

If a customer calls you on a group call instead of a one-on-one call, the tool does not charge them. One of my callers knew this, and I didn’t.

So, they got that one hour call for free, and I didn’t get any money from it.

(Disclaimer: I’m not bad-mouthing SkyPrivate! I think they’re an excellent site. But, vulnerabilities like these make things unsafe for adult content creators and clients alike.)

If It’s Happened to Me, It Can Happen to You Too.

In my 5 years as an adult content creator, I’ve successfully avoided thousands of attempts to steal my money. On those two occasions however, they fooled me. If they got me, they’ll probably get you too without enough vigilance.

I’ll teach you what to do to spot a catfish, avoid them, and how to keep yourself safe online.

How to Spot a Catfish FemDom on Social Media

Fake Twitter accounts love to follow adult content creators. We have an audience who loves our work, wants to pay us, and our content is easy to copy/paste.

Figuring out how to spot a catfish starts with separating real from fake.

How to Spot Fake Social Media Accounts

To spot a FemDom social media scammer, there are a few red flags.

Low-Quality or Stolen Photos

Firstly, a fake Domme uses low-quality, stolen images of other creators in their profile pictures. Because they lack originality, they might also steal captions or common phrases in the FemDom community.

No Engagement or Interaction

Secondly, you see a high follower count, but little to no engagement. This is tricky because Twitter shadowbans NSFW content, but it’s a red flag at least. For the post part, there will be no interaction with hundreds of thousands of followers.

Verify Before Sending a Tribute

While tributes upfront are common, a lack of adult sites are a red flag. The fake Domme won’t have a verified website to browse. Every adult content creator should have at least one (but the preference is multiple) paysite, including:

Why is that? All of these platforms verify our ID and compare them to photos we send. Some of these adult paysites also check our social media for verification. Therefore, it’s much harder to catfish submissive men with so many safeguards.

There is also a high chance that you are talking to a minor.

Why don’t minors have links to websites like OnlyFans or SextPanther? Like I said before, these sites verify our ID. They don’t accept anyone below the age of 18.

So by spotting a catfish on NSFW social media, you are protecting yourself… from jail.

How to Avoid Fake Dommes

Be aware that most Dommes prefer not to message their subs directly. There are a few exceptions, but in general, it’s uncommon. Your catfish radar should be on high alert.

If a fake Domme messages you, immediately demanding a tribute, she’s either highly inexperienced or a fraud.

We want to direct you to our adult paysites (LoyalFans, SextPanther, etc.) where it’s safer for both of us to interact. That brings me to my next point.

Sending tributes through PayPal or Venmo is a red flag.

These platforms are not friendly towards sexual services, and most of us won’t take the risk. Instead, they typically direct subs to their payment platforms.

How to Verify FemDoms on Twitter, Instagram, or Other Social Media

Verification is a necessity in NSFW social media spaces. It keeps both parties safe and minors out of our inboxes. There is a right way and a wrong way to verify a potential Domme on social media.

The wrong way:

• Asking for ID verification is not acceptable. We have to protect ourselves from stalkers and dangerous people.

• Video verification was a smart strategy, but social media scammers ruined it quickly. They steal the videos, post it on their catfish accounts, and use that to scam other subs.

• Even pictures with a signed name and date are easily manipulated.

The right way:

Most established FemDom creators have dozens of ways to verify them. Check her social media profile, official website, blog, or link pages for:

Don’t pay through Twitter, Instagram, or Other Social Media

I’ve said it a few times, but I’ll be direct here. Most FemDom creators take money via their adult paysites. If they aren’t asking for payment on OnlyFans, iWantClips, SextPanther, LoyalFans, or other verified paysites; it’s a risk.

To guarantee that your money is hitting the hands of the Dominant woman you admire, say no to PayPal and Venmo.

Many adult content creators who I can personally prove are real use it. I don’t, but it is common. Take extra steps to vet them at the very least.

Other Social Media Scams to Avoid

Spotting a catfish is a drop in the bucket of social media scams. Where adult content creators go, scammers are bound to follow. So, also keep an eye out for:

• Bots

Social media bots are automated, and they are inherently neutral. There are good bots, and there are bad bots.

With bad bots, their goal is to follow as many people as possible to send them spam. It can be “innocent”, like trying to get traffic to an upcoming website or liking/reposting content.

Or, social media bots can be malicious. Harmful bots might send spam links. It will either be a phishing attempt to hack your account, or a way to manipulate you.

Twitter is notorious for having manipulative bots who write offensive comments. Their purchase is to drive up engagement and upset you, so you keep replying to them. I suggest blocking them and moving on.

• Sexual Extortion and Blackmail

This is a common scam tactic, so be wary. The scam goes like this:

Catfish pretends to be a woman > Man asks for pictures > They send and receive pictures > Catfish threatens to post man’s nudes and demands money

The catfish scammer may pretend to be a minor, or they’ll use other tactics to scare you.

Remember one thing:

It’s scary, being threatened with nude photos of yourself. But, what’s done is done. Block and ignore them. There’s a strong chance that they’re bluffing.

Avoid Payment Issues on Porn Sites

Because of the nature of the payment, most banks are funny about letting you pay adult content creators. They claim that it’s due to high risk and chargebacks, but truly, it’s discriminatory.

Many submissive men go the social media route because of banking issues. A handful of times, I’ve had a male sub tell me that their credit card or bank account blocks my platforms.

This is frustrating for both of us. As creators, we deal with similar problems, but there are some solutions.

Clips4Sale Payment Options

• Credit Cards
• Debit Cards
• Prepaid Cards
• Klarna
• ClipCash

They accept Visa, Mastercard, and Discover.

ClipCash

ClipCash is Clips4Sale’s virtual prepaid card. The only fee that I found was an inactivity fee. So, if you fail to use the card for 1 year, they charge 1% of the loaded funds + $10.

For an active clip purchaser, that should not be an issue! It’s just something to be wary about.

On the bright side, ClipsCash offers rewards for frequent, big spenders. Loading $100 gets you an extra $5 to spend, and loading $200 gets you $10.

ClipsCash is a more anonymized way to buy clips. If you’re worried about your bank statements, that’s probably the better path to choose.

Klarna

Klarna is a payment provider that offers Buy Now, Pay Later. If you want to make a large purchase, you can spend it all at once. Then, you pay it off in 4 payments.

It claims that those four payments are interest free, but there is a soft credit pull.

LoyalFans Payment Options

• Credit Card
• Epoch
• Crypto

Epoch

Epoch processes debit and credit card payments on behalf of LoyalFans. If you can’t purchase directly through the fansite or want to use a debit card, this is the alternative.

Cryptocurrency

Crypto payments make people skeptical. While I’m in the same boat as those skeptics, there are advantages to paying with cryptocurrency. Those include:

• Little to no fees
• Easy international pay
• Anonymous purchases
• Fast payments on mobile

The best benefit for using crypto payments:

They won’t randomly block your money. You get to spend your money that you worked hard to earn.

SextPanther Payment Options

On SextPanther, customers buy credits, similar to a virtual wallet. They can purchase with:

• Credit Card
• PayPal
• Crypto
• Gift Card

PayPal

While SextPanther does allow PayPal payments, I don’t suggest using it. On three different occasions, I’ve had fans get flagged by the payment platform. They were no longer able to send or receive money until they provided information to PP to unlock their accounts.

Gift Cards

Gift cards are an interesting strategy to make a purchase. It makes sense. The majority of people can safely purchase a gift card without raising red flags to their bank.

Learn How to Spot a Catfish Before You Lose Money

If you got through that long-winded read, congratulations and thank you.

It all boils down to two things:

• Be suspicious.
• Only use reputable paysites.

If you’ve been scammed and catfished in the past, that’s not a reason to stop paying your favorite FemDom creators. Instead, take it as your initiative to start verifying and get on the well-known paysites.

Credible Dommes don’t deserve to lose money because of catfishing. Make sure that your hard-earned money goes straight to the women who earned it.

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