The kink is popular because a lot of women believe that it’s free/easy money. They snap their fingers and expect to be paid. While that is the nature of the fetish, it’s a lot more than what meets the eye.
Research BDSM. Understand the root of the fetish you want to provide. Figure out what attracts finsubs, paypigs, human wallets, financial service subs. Hint: It’s not just “f- you, pay me”.
Create content that resonates with your take on FinDom, not because it’s popular, but because you want to attract potential finsubs that prioritize your needs.
These were the top 10 most popular payment methods during March.
Put yourself in the right spaces. The point of doing so is to learn about FinDom, and attract subs that you’d allow to serve you. Putting on a persona isn’t a good idea; imo it leads to burnout quickly.
Letting your naturally Dominant, feminine energy shine yields the most success. Haven’t explored your inner Domme before?
I’d suggest learning what you want and prioritizing your wants above all else. If all else fails, dealing with swarms of timewasters will make or break your ability to say “You’re not worth my time. Goodbye.”
In the Mood to Make Your Paycheck Mine?
I’ll gladly take that cash out of your hands.
I promise, I’m much better at spending it than you are. Be a good boy, and fill up my bank account.
It all boils down to which site you want to buy porn from.
The most common payment method is Mastercard and Visa. However, most adult sites take other payment methods.
Nowadays, you can use crypto or a debit card for most adult sites.
Depending on your country, some paid porn sites offer Giropay (Germany), EPS (Austria), and iDeal (Netherlands).
Some sites also offer their own prepaid cards, such as ClipCash for Clips4Sale.
It depends on the site whether or not you’ll be able to use PayPal, and I wouldn’t expect that to last for long. But, I know that FapHouse takes it.
New subs might be hesitant to sign up for adult sites. People worry about the safety of their credit card, and that’s understandable. Most adult content creators have multiple ways to pay.
All of the creators on the site are verified via ID and a photo. They use a legitimate payment processor as well. I’ve been using LoyalFans since August, and they’ve always paid me on-time and in full.
What Payment Methods Do I Take?
I encourage potential fans and submissive men to visit my paysites. They all take the most popular payment methods.
I avoid PayPal and Venmo because of their likelihood to ban models for selling adult content.
Yes. I won’t make you sit through a long introduction for the answer. But, I’ll use the rest of this article to explain why your payment information is safe on reputable porn sites.
Fraud happens, and so do leaks. This isn’t a guarantee that your credit card will be safe in the hands of paysites. But, I’ll use my 5 years in the adult industry to explain why it probably is.
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Why Am I Talking About Credit Card Safety?
Here’s the short backstory.
I signed up to Quora. There aren’t many female adult content creators on that social media. So, the majority of questions and answers are between clients who… don’t know what they’re talking about.
Within a month, my inbox was flooded with one question in particular, but in different formats.
“Will an adult content website steal my credit card information?”
“How do I avoid hackers on paysites?”
“How secure is OnlyFans, LoyalFans, Clips4Sale, etc.?”
And my personal favorite:
“Is my phone safe when I visit porn sites?”
Obviously, there’s a layer of paranoia surrounding adult paysites. So, I wanted to address it.
Disclaimer: I’m not a fortune teller. Every website is capable of accidentally leaking data. Mistakes happen.
Even safe adult sites aren’t immune to data leaks, but I do believe that they take extra precautions. The scrutiny surrounding porn platforms puts them under a microscope.
They could easily lose the trust of their entire customer base, and that’s what keeps them in check.
How to Differentiate Unsafe vs. Safe Porn Sites
While I reasonably trust all of these adult platforms with my brand, I’m aware of the underlying issue. It is possible to stumble across a sketchy website.
These sketchy characteristics should raise your alarm bells:
It looks lazily thrown together.
There are 1 million ads, especially pop-ups.
It asks you to download things that you did not ask or pay for.
If you do put in information (such as an email address), your inbox fills with irrelevant spam.
Too-good-to-be-true discounts on expensive items
IMPORTANT: When you download a video from a website, the file should be .MP3 or .MOV. Other common video file formats may pop up. However, it should never be a .EXE file.
A .EXE file is meant to make changes to your device. You’ll often see it with app downloads, programs, software, etc. It is not a video file. If you think you’re downloading a video and get a .EXE file instead, do not open it.
Safe websites should have a few key features.
Firstly, an SSL certificate with “https://” is essential.
The alternative “http://” is not secure. If you put your information into a URL with “http://“, it’s easy for third parties to steal anything that you type on that site.
At the very least, the domain name should be spelled correctly.
If you’re surfing PornHub for example, and you notice that the domain name says PronHub, that is not the same website. It is fake. Hackers take advantage of misspelled domain names to steal your information.
Paysites I Trust With My Information
Since I’ve been in the adult industry for 5 years, I have never had an issue with my paysites. In fact, I’ve had more problems with Facebook and Twitter’s shady privacy policies.
The trusted adult sites that I use regularly include:
Most of my paysites are old. Clips4Sale is 20 years old. SextPanther was founded 9 years ago, and iWantClips is 13 years old.
LoyalFans is the newest at 4 years old. That made me skeptical at first, but other creators convinced me of their legitimacy. I’m glad that they did. It’s my favorite premium subscription platform!
My logic is that their longevity means something. If they survived this long through multiple financial crises, then they know how to encrypt our data.
” I’d say that the porn industry has helped pioneer things like video streaming and online payment services, and they don’t want to do things that hurt their businesses. They’ve invested a lot in keeping sites secure.”
Stephen Cobb in The San Diego Tribune
*Note: SextPanther had issues with a breach in the past. However, they were not hacked. The leaked (model, not client) information was found by penetration testers and not seen by the general public. I talk about it more in my SextPanther review.
Keep in mind…
I’m not just sharing credit card information with these paysites.
They need my full name and driver’s license to prove that I’m of legal age. My social security number, address, and other personal information are required for tax purposes. Some of these NSFW platforms require a photo of a utility bill to prove where we live.
Adult content creators who use trusted paysites are age verified.
That matters. It’s not realistic or safe to give my fans this sensitive information. Safe porn sites do the heavy lifting by verifying every creator.
It’s safer to use a verified adult platform to pay for porn. Unverified creators who use PayPal are just as risky as a sketchy paysite.
Why I Take Safety Seriously as an Adult Content Creator
As an adult content creator, I spend a lot of time vetting new paysites.
I do not compromise when it comes to my safety. My logic is, how can I expect my viewers, fans, and subs to sign up for a website that I don’t trust?
When it comes to safety, that’s essential for us. We hear horror stories about being stalked, harassed, and killed through the grapevine. Even Amouranth was stalked once upon a time.
The stakes are a bit higher than credit card information for us. So, we have to be sure that a website won’t get us in deep trouble.
How to Vet a Paysite
Adult content creators and the people who buy from us can both learn something here.
This is a lot of work for fans, clients, and viewers. I want to explain my process for two reasons.
Firstly, I’d like for you to know that I don’t sign up for any adult site. I take special care to prove the legitimacy of my platforms. I this is too much work for you personally, know that I put in the effort.
Basically, the links I send you are vetted. If I send you something, it’s legitimate to the best of my knowledge.
Secondly, it’s to protect your data. Clicking suspicious links is risky. You have to know what’s safe and what isn’t. If this inspires you to be a bit more careful, I’ve done my due diligence.
Here’s where I start my vetting process:
Are they legitimate?
Are models that I know using it?
How old are they?
Who owns them?
Are there any sources about them that don’t come from the website itself? (Forbes, feature articles, etc.)
Do they have traffic, and what’s their traffic source?
Since OnlyFans got popular, scam fansites popped up in its midst. Most of them are a quick cash grab, and the risk leans towards the models.
For example, Pocketstars (now known as Fansify) seemed like a legitimate site. However, they stopped paying adult creators and no longer communicate honestly with the community. ExtraLunchMoney pulled a similar trick.
What makes me suspicious of a paysite:
It’s under 2 years old.
The content of the site focuses on performer sign-ups instead of selling to clients.
There is no age verification.
They ask adult creators to pay instead of clients.
Badmouthing creators on social media. (Yes, this happens.)
Little to no social media presence.
Basically, the red flags fly high and bright. A poorly managed website costs creators and members in the long run. It’s better to go with older, trustworthy brands.
Is Your Credit Card Safe on Premium Porn Sites?
To wrap things up, yes. Finding a trustworthy porn site is key. Don’t enter your payment information into new, sketchy paysites.
Avoid diving so deep that you’re on the dark side of the internet, and you’ll be fine. So far, my “green flag” sites are:
LoyalFans
Streamate
Clips4Sale
iWantClips
Chaturbate
ModelHub
SkyPrivate
SextPanther
Note: This is my experience as a model on these pay-to-play sites. For issues on the client end, I can’t answer those questions.
Quick Tip: It’s possible to look up reviews on Trustpilot or Scam Advisor to see what clients are saying.
Thank you for reading!
Hopefully, this makes you feel a bit safer on my side of the internet. Don’t let sex shame and paranoia stop you from being your kinkiest true self. If you want to pay for porn, you deserve to relax while doing so.
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In short: Yes, it is possible to be masculine and submissive.
Submission is not a feminine trait. Masculinity is not defined by whether or not a person is Dominant. Topping and bottoming are separate from all four.
It is possible to maintain your masculinity while being a submissive man. I look at that type of submission in the context of being subservient towards your partner. Tending to your partner’s needs, anticipating them, and serving them in a way that brings their feminine traits out.
Masculinity and femininity complement each other well. It’s about finding that energy within yourself and sharing that with a partner.
How Would I Bring Masculine Traits Out of a Submissive Man?
It’s up to the confines of your individual relationship. Discuss everything with your sub.
But, if you’re looking for examples, I can tell you what I do.
They’d speak or write their mantras, usually revolving around me or our relationship. I also like to sprinkle in self-love and adoration to build up their mental health.
For self-care routines, that’s a strong preference of mine. I don’t want someone to get so deep into their obsession that they stop taking care of themselves. For submissive men, I think this is essential. Daily showers, a skincare routine, keeping their room tidy, grooming, etc.
Acts of service are my favorite. I enjoy the thoughtfulness put into every action. My best boys usually do this of their own volition, but I like to tell them to do at least one thing daily that benefits me. That could be anything from public adoration to paying for my dinner. It’s the thought that counts.
I don’t like to jump into all of this instantly. This is a lot of work to set up, and it takes dedication for both parties. Only a very select few get these privileges, and it’s because we built our relationship up to that point.
How Do I Express My Feminine Traits While Still Being Dominant?
Female Domination is not a sexuality. It is a preference and a way to approach intimacy in the context of relationships and sex. You’ve got it backwards if you think anythings making us do FemDom.
Female Dominance differs from woman to woman. It’s about our desires, needs, preferences. Once we start prioritizing ourselves, it happens naturally.
In a female led relationship, it may look different than it does in porn. A lot of hardcore mainstream porn is male-centric due to the target audience. Submissive men, especially those with a bit of experience, understand that it’s all about her.
Last I heard, OnlyFans creators below the top 20–30% aren’t making much money.
The average OnlyFans creator according to Follower Co makes $180 monthly. Another source says that the average is more like $151. That’s a stark difference between them and top OnlyFans creators.
It’s more than likely because it’s filled to the brim with creators with a low follower count.
At one point (before I deleted it), I remember making a random $20, and it put me in the top 70%. This was a year and a half ago, and I’m sure the gap has widened with new signups and models at the top getting richer.
So, I can say for sure that a decent chunk of creators aren’t even making enough money to even go out to eat.
Even when I hit 3k followers on Twitter, I wasn’t pulling in more than 30 OnlyFans subscribers in all per month.
If we consider that a 1% conversion rate, then another OnlyFans creator with 300 Twitter followers would have 3 subscribers. At $5 per month, that’s $15 in subscription profit, not counting PPV, unlocks, and tips.
Instagram’s conversion rate is much better. So, if we bump that up to 3% (conservative), then 300 Insta followers at 3% conversions would be 9 subscribers or $45 per month in subscription revenue.
Obviously, that’s not set in stone and would vary, depending on:
OnlyFans is one of the few adult platforms that doesn’t have internal discoverability. You have to click external links to find somebody’s specific page.
So, despite its 320 million monthly visits, not all creators get to benefit. If you aren’t able to convert, you’re SOL.
Once I hit 8k followers and saw my other sites making great money with OF still stagnant, I deleted it. It’s not a great site for starting from the very bottom.
It’s what a lot of sex workers use to make money. Many SW’s, especially newbies, don’t have the marketing experience to understand how to draw traffic from other channels.
It’s an easy way to keep in touch with followers and update them on our latest ventures. Plus, social media does bring in new clients.
It also gives us a space to easily interact with our peers since not many people shout “I’m a sex worker, and I need friends” in public.
My biggest concern is, it won’t stop at sex workers. Internet censorship has been on a fast track this last few years, and it’s not going to stop until someone cracks down. Right now, almost all of our politicians are happy to restrict sex workers without a second thought as to what that means for the rest of society.
We’re just the scapegoat. Everyone cheers when the whores are losing and ignore the freedom of speech aspect of the issue.
If we’re getting banned for doing legal work, who do you think is next? Freedom of speech violations won’t stop at sex workers. We’re just how they test the waters to see what they can get away with.
For example, everyone cheered at the SESTA/FOSTA law being passed under the guise of protecting children and human trafficking victims.
But, the hidden aspect of the new law is:
Websites being legally liable for what users post.
Websites can be punished for user content that was posted before the law passed.
Your right to online privacy died with this law. Because of it, Cloud Storage monitors your files, email providers scan your emails, private messages are monitored by the site and/or government; everything that occurs online is monitored.
The law doesn’t have clear language, and because of that, sites and social media reacted by overextending their reach to shadowban or restrict all offensive content (Freedom. Of. Speech.)
Increased sex trafficking because full service sex workers had to go back to pimps or were coerced by people who targeted their desperation.
The “target” of the law was sex traffickers, but *everyone* felt the hit when Craigslist personals, some subreddits, adult-oriented crypto, some dating websites, Google Drive accounts, and dozens of other online services shut down or started restricting their services.
I also read an article years ago about SESTA/FOSTA making it harder for the FBI to track child sex trafficking, but I cannot find it again. Instead of “eliminating” the issue, they just pushed the criminals deeper into the cracks.
What’s my point? Social media is one of the last safe platforms for sex workers to fairly easily make money, especially inexperienced or new ones.
If it ever falls, then there will more than likely be an increase in pimps, sex trafficking, homelessness, etc among SW’s; and I am assuming this because of the data collected from the results of SESTA/FOSTA.
Yes, we will move on to the next site, and the next one, and the next one at first. I even bought a domain and started doing brand deals, collect ad revenue, affiliate marketing, and I’m an investor with a high-yield savings account.
But, I’m 24. The 19-year-old who got kicked out of her house and lives in hotels probably doesn’t understand how to hedge her money like that. And, she literally can’t because she’d have to choose between hedging or eating.
It starts with the whores. When it will be you who’s on the other end of discrimination? Probably sooner than you think.
Note: I tried to make this as clear as possible, but a lot of this is off the top of my head and written very quickly. I was there during SESTA/FOSTA, but that was 4 years ago. I’ll come back later to double check everything I said.
ManyVids is a community for adult content creators to sell homemade clips. Most of the models on the site create solo female content, but it also hosts boy/girl, girl/girl, etc.
The site does require age verification to upload clips. They allow YouTube-style content like ASMR, try-on hauls, and gaming. There is SFW (safe for work) content on the site. However, it’s mostly an 18+ website.
Most of its videos generally can’t be accessed without a credit card.
YouTube is a mostly free online space that allows just about anyone to upload. It age-restricts 18+ content and removes “sexually gratifying” videos with no educational or newsworthy purpose.
Although it is a video-centric website for all ages, you can find Domme YouTube channels. The FemDom community is a bit harder to find because YT keeps them off of the main search results.
They have similarities, such as allowing livestreams and video uploads.
But, MV will not allow unverified users to upload. You need to provide proof of legal age via ID.
There are other key differences, but you get the gist.
“Now, more than ever, consumers lean on trust as a leading factor when deciding whether to do business with a company.”
Why This Advice Applies:
Trust is a leading factor because of guilt. They may be worried about the ethics of the porn they watch. Female clients and left-leaning clients in particular as of 2022 – 2024 actively search for ethical porn, but it is something that male clients consider.
Why It Doesn’t Apply:
For clients who patronize sex workers, the priority is impulse spending.
If a client legitimately has a crush on the sex worker, and if we can provide a very specific fetish/kink while having the “look”. We may look like their girlfriend or their wife, or a coworker that they have a crush on.
This is still a play on trust, but it’s not something that we can account for on our end.
“Do customers have pain points that no existing company is addressing?”
Customer pain points. Post nut clarity. They do not mix well.
We have paint points with the clients, and the clients are in denial about it. Because our image is the product, we get physically exhausted.
I personally do not pay attention to client pain points because I create content based on fetish. If they don’t like it, they should have read the description, looked at the thumbnail, watched the preview, and even asked me if the video has exactly what they want.
Basically, we have to prioritize ourselves, and our clients follow.
Our feedback system revolves around user comments and one-on-one interactions.
Review sites will simultaneously criticize models and steal our content. Some of our clients have legitimate concerns and want to tell us how to improve. They do not want to be on the websites that abuse us.
“Growing a business centers around generating awareness among consumers”
Brand awareness is important. However, fresh content is a priority with porn performers.
ManyVids and LoyalFans in particular prioritize new content, as does Google.
Sites like PornHub, XHamster, and XVideos are good for generating brand awareness. On account of impulse spending, it’s a waste of time in my opinion. If you are not online, a client will go somewhere else.
Dommes and sex workers as a whole have different niches. Popular models like Britney Amber might prioritize brand awareness. But, a newer or less popular model would not be able to reach that rank in the same way.
Mass popularity isn’t possible for a new model unless they start trending.
Actively trying to trend isn’t a possibility for models with low rank or social media shadowbans. They could niche down and aim for brand awareness based on fetish, but they’d be relying on a handful of clients for money.
“Make use of marketing tools“
MelRose Michaels, the founder of SexWorkCEO, is a great source of information. So many sex workers do not have the tools to bring their rank up. The priority is client retention and money.
Every app and website that we use actively works against us.
I discovered that a lot of marketers, developers, engineers, and tech industry experts have excellent ideas. But, the disconnect is our pain points.
If you approach the adult industry with an idea, keep in mind:
Sex worker and client safety/privacy take priority.
Do research on the laws that hold our industry down: Project 2025 and SESTA/FOSTA
Our terms of service prioritize consent and are a slave to Mastercard/Visa.
Your skills are valuable, but they have to specifically apply to sex workers.
If you’re easy to anger or averse to criticism, get the fuck out.
Tech Industry Experts, Here’s Where to Start
Most of us are sole proprietors. I will never work for an agency. You may have the experience to guide new models, but there are other ways to monetize.
Careers for Software Engineers – SpankChain Discord Channel
The adult industry has a place for you. One of our biggest priorities is accessible payment options due to banking issues. Doing your research could land you a spot among us that easily~
Chaturbate has a community of developers who create apps for models. You can visit their Developer Portal here.
Most of us are sole proprietors. I will never work for an agency. You may have the experience to guide new models, but there are other ways to monetize.
When fansites were the trend, many of the webmasters went straight to the models. They were working backwards and actively avoiding marketing experts.
They were trying to make fast money. I do not create accounts on new websites that have zero clients.
If you’re looking for places to pitch, targeting those websites is a good idea.
iPhone, the App Store, does not allow explicit adult content.
Many websites have to find workarounds, and they are model-centric.
The clients do not have access to the same tools we do, tools that make it easier to purchase the product.
The laws that make it more complicated to sell porn and fetish content target clients. So, the developers on our end do not make client-centric apps.
“31% of the 1,400 marketers in our most recent State of Marketing survey say short-form videos yield the highest ROI,”
Short-form videos got popular after the TikTok wave. They’re an excellent marketing strategy.
However, when you have too much free content, you will not get clicks in the porn world. We have to go back through our feeds, delete the majority of our content just to pull clients towards our paysites.
“Ad Exhaustion”
This is excellent marketing advice. It’s easy to post too many ads. My genuine advice to sex workers is that showing personality is key.
We are simultaneously a product and a person. Our existence is a niche, and we are all unique.
Ad exhaustion applies the most on social media. When we try to trend or prioritize traffic, we post the same thing back-to-back. Creating fresh content on a regular basis is exhausting, and we have to find ways around that.
“Conduct price research. Use pricing research and case studies to help your company find an acceptable price point for a new product.”
The answer to this switches on a dime.
Customers categorize us in their minds based on body type and fetish. They do have certain price points, depending on the fetish. But, you’re stuck there because you can’t change the way that you look.
There are ways to mitigate this, and it’s mostly a beginner’s paint point.
“Let customers hear from you.”
Our clients love free conversation, and the more free conversation they get, the less likely they are to pay.
If they do not pay you within the first 3 messages, they aren’t going to pay at all. Some of them live on our websites and feed off of free conversation. They literally message hundreds of us every week.
AI seems to be a good fix for this, but we will see~
“Leverage the ‘Attract, Delight, Engage’ model to create tailored content for each stage of the buyer’s journey.“
This is a basic marketing sales funnel, which is effective. Like I mentioned before, clients who pay well are looking for specific fetishes and experiences.
So, it’s easier to work backwards.
I start with the fetish. I will publish the keywords on my blog and social media. However, the content already has to be ready because of the impulse spending factor.
So, I have to make the video first and *then* create bite-size content.
In summation, “coming soon” does not work.
“Don’t just put out fluff content – put out content that educates your audience and answers their questions thoroughly.“
This is a great tip because, many clients don’t know the how or why about their fetish.
They are genuinely interested in learning. They know that they have it. And sometimes they’ll get stuck in a binge/guilt cycle.
The ones who do their research are able to reach those conclusions more easily.
It also validates them. They wonder whether or not the performer they’ve been eyeing understands their fetish on a fundamental level. They like to know that they’re in good hands.
They love walking into that water when they know that it is safe for their puny manbrains.
Marketing Advice Geared Towards Sex Workers
Sex work is a closed practice for many reasons. They look towards their community for advice and rarely accept outside influence. Many newcomers also learn by making mistakes.
On top of that, the majority of new SW’s only last around 3 months before they quit.
Good advice that I found from my research on this article: Attract, Engage, Delight.
When one of my strategies run stale, I like to do a revamp. I’m in a fast-paced industry, so I do my best to stay up-to-date with best practices.
I discovered Attract, Engage, Delight. Because general advice usually doesn’t apply to Dommes, I’ll take this trend and put my own spin on it.
My job is all about creativity, and it’s easy to find a loyal test subject who’s ready to be experimented on~
