My Preferences in Sexually Submissive Men

At the beginning of this year, I described myself as a switch. I never dove deep into FemDom, the nuances of BDSM, or kink. Recently, that changed.

Read about my journey into FemDom and how I learned to appreciate submissive men.

Update: Let’s make it even simpler.

1.) Tribute.

2.) I don’t have a minimum Tribute because I want you to put your best foot forward.

3.) Introduce yourself respectfully.

4.) Tell me your expectations, and I’ll tell you mine.

5.) Stay consistent. I don’t need daily interaction, but I do need to know that you haven’t disappeared on me.

6.) The bare minimum is a turn off. Devotion and obedience are what makes me happy.

7.) I’m okay with FinDom, but not what’s currently trending. It has to go by my rules, or I’m not interested.

8.) If you want to “serve”, you need to have actual skills that benefit me.

I’m wordy. Read the table of contents for information most relevant to you.

For interested male subs, I strongly suggest reading as much as you can. *mwah*

What Turns a Goddess On?

In the near-perfect dynamic, your world revolves around me.

I don’t believe that being Dominant means leaning into masculine energy. In fact, I’m very feminine and caring. Am I a soft Domme? Lol.

No, I’m not soft. I’m sadistic and straight up brutal most of the time. But, I take “hurt but never harm” seriously. The honorific of Goddess is my choice for a reason. Goddesses are Divine, Feminine, Ethereal… just as they can be Cruel and Punishing.

On top of that, I’m not “on” 24/7. If I see that you’re not Tributing, listening to my commands, or not expressing that you’re open to playing; I assume that you don’t want to play.

Closed mouths don’t get fed. I will not pursue you.

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To me, that’s not inherently masculine.

What makes me powerful isn’t aggression or force. It’s my ability to use my mind to train you into submission. For this reason, I’m not big into impact play or CBT as a form of punishment.

I’d rather verbally humiliate, or manipulate.

If you’ve been punished with a block or being ignored, don’t reach out again without more money than what you spent on fucking up your chance.

On the other hand, I don’t think that submission is a feminine trait. In fact, I find it very attractive when submissive men have a provider mentality. He “wins” in life and shares that with his Goddess.

Using your strength, skills, and privilege to serve is the ultimate gift to me.

If you understand, we’re a match. If this flew over your head, we’re not.

My Favorite Kinky Sessions With My Good Boys (and Girls!)

So, who are the subby boys who’ve impressed me over the years? I’ll give you a rundown.

Trevor: The Bisexual Cuck

Trevor was a cuck. He wasn’t my first cuckold experience, but he was the best. He was delighted to hear about the men I fucked and paid for our dates with enthusiasm.

He wanted to suck big cocks. Bisexual men are fucking hot, so I wanted to fulfill that fantasy. But, I wasn’t going to let him embarrass me in front of guests. So, I told him to practice. Whatever he had on hand, he had to suck until he got it right.

We spent ages training that sensitive gag reflex until he was ready for the real thing. Then, I told him to get on Grindr to find the perfect candidate. I helped him set up his profile, snap some sexy but subservient pics, and set him free.

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Samantha: The Sissy

My first ever sissy, despite having mostly negative experiences with them, was a wonderful and sweet girl. She was timid and genuinely couldn’t make decisions for herself.

There was no, “Oh, Goddess, please don’t make me wear panties.” in an attempt to manipulate me into “making” her wear panties.

She let me guide the conversation. I spent a while asking about her kink to gather information about her. Once I sensed weakness, I let my exploitative nature take over.

If she wanted to wear panties, she’d have to do something for me first. I gave her a makeup tutorial, picked out her wig and high heels.

Then, I told her to walk like she was on a runway and critiqued her. I made her walk it again until she got it perfect. 

Jack: The Finsub

Jack came to me and immediately proved his subservience. He sent a tribute and introduced himself. We had many long conversations, sprinkled with small sends, and spent a long time getting to know each other.

He never realized that I was programming him to feel a rush when he did what I liked.

Every send was coupled with:

• “Thank you for proving your subservience.” (Backhanded)
• “That one made you weaker, didn’t it?” (Teasing)
• “I bet that felt fucking good.” (Encouraging)
• “The next send might make you cum without touching.” (Mindfuck)

So many small sends, but he ended up spending more than he’d originally planned. Weakness and addiction is a powerful thing.

Eventually, I created a plan for him to make more money. You may think this was out of the kindness of my heart (It kind of was, I’m financially savvy).

How I Dominate Submissive Men

I’m hard to please. It’s true.

I realized that when I encountered my first few sexually submissive men. The “kink dispenser” mentality annoys me. I prefer FemDom to be fun, and me having to fulfill your every wish is not fun.

Using FemDom for Control

I love to squeeze my influence around a man’s thoughts and actions like a snake. Whenever he thinks of me, it’s punctuated with an innate need to feel my control.

That shouldn’t be taken lightly. Ghosting, failing to follow commands, or refusing to submit dry me up like the Sahara. Many subs don’t see how far I’ll go until they test me. If I decide to push back, it’s too late to go back.

I’m a brick wall. If I give them two options, the third does not exist.

My Verbal Humiliation Kink

I enjoy verbal humiliation. Degrading a sub until he’s a puddle of nothing turns me on. Insults do it for me, but truly putting them in their place is exhilarating. 

I use verbal humiliation to bring male subs into their subspace. The harder I go, the weaker they are for me. When they’re a mess for their FemDom Goddess, that’s when I begin to exploit them.

Then, they truly understand that the only way to gain my favor is by giving up their autonomy.

SPH and Chastity

Nothing’s hotter than desperation. Locking subs in chastity and listening to them whine, beg, plead, and eventually submit is *chefs kiss*. Longer sentences are my goal.

If you tell me you can only last three days, I’ll make you go for two weeks. A month or two? Let’s make it six.

No cumming allowed, but I love to tease.

Watching a cuck get hard in his cage is fucking hilarious.

Usually, I’ll couple SPH with chastity, depending on my mood. His little dick is useless anyways; why give him the option to use it?

Financial Domination

Update: Since you need it in layman’s terms, here is how a potential finsub should approach me. I had to edit this entire section because my previous one brought the real losers out of the bushes.

1. Tribute.
2. I do not have a minimum tribute. You put the effort into impressing me. If I’m not impressed, it’s probably downhill from there.
3. Introduce yourself, including your other kinks and fetishes.
4. Earn your place in my inbox.
5. I get bored when you make me pull money out of you. Either send, or don’t. Your presence is not lifechanging, so earn your place.
6. If you’re going to bitch about “sending too much”, give me a budget. Refusing to give me a budget is your fault, and I will rinse you if you fail to do so.
7. If you bore me, I’ll move on.
8. If you fail to send regular tributes, I will move on.
9. Quit expecting me to read your mind, and use your words.

In case you missed my entire put up until now… Demanding and forcing are not my style. Money comes to me effortlessly. If you make me put any effort into your version of submission, I’m bored.

I like when subs listen and feel devoted to me. You, sending me money, does not exclude you from that preference.

If you want money to be seduced out of you, speak up.

If you want cruelty, open your mouth and tell me.

If you want it to be manipulated, drained, and siphoned out of you, use your words.

I’m capable of every one of these things, but I am not a mind reader. Use what little balls you have to open your mouth and tell me. Otherwise, your place in my priorities comes after my favorite subs.

Here’s an Example of What Turns Me Off (And Leads to a Block).

It went like this:

• Finsub approached with a small tribute.
• I gave him a simple command. Scroll my feed, and every post he passes, say “Thank you, Goddess.” with another tribute.
• He directly disobeyed, and sent “Thank you, Goddess” with no tribute.
• I told him that if he wants to continue talking, he owes me.
• He sent the money, and then asked if he could cum.
• I asked what he thought he did to deserve that.
• I told him to send a real apology, attached to money that would actually impress me, and I’d consider forgiving him.
• He sent another small tribute.
• I denied him.
• He disappeared, but he came back a month later like nothing happened.
• I blocked him.
• He sent me a decent tribute with an apology attached.
• I ignored him.

He wanted to be the one in control. What was submissive about that conversation? He thought that sending me money would make me say the things he wanted to hear.

On top of that, he thought disappearing and coming back would teach me a lesson. And he thought that he could apologize with a tribute, and I’d repeat that cycle with him.

Lol.

My Old Opinion on Financial Domination

I take a different approach to financial domination.

I didn’t think there was a correct phrase for it, but I found a great discussion here on Reddit. The way that OP describes her preferences is exactly how I feel. 

My Updated Opinion on Financial Domination

[Update: The budget management positions have been filled. I’m managing too many to take on new ones. Your only options now are to tribute, send, obey, and contribute.]

Here’s where it gets dicey.

Many finsubs I come across literally try to use their cash to hold power over Dommes.

The low-tier wallet runs away when she says something that he doesn’t like… And comes back later when he feels as though she’s been adequately punished with his lack of presence.

Finsubs in particular seem to enjoy gatekeeping their wallets.

It seems like more Dommes try to get a finsubs’ attention than vice versa. As a result, the men in the FinDom community got spoiled, entitled, and feel like they deserve special treatment. I won’t participate in this role reversal.

You listen and obey, or you get kicked out of my inbox.

I do not give a fuck about your money. You cannot use it to hold power over me. As a submissive man in my presence, you have no power.

I will notice what you’re trying to do, and you will be blocked. Carrot dangling, running away, or pretending that you can’t send is a surefire way to get on my shitlist.

I already have money. You’re lucky if I end up wanting yours.

You do not get to misbehave, or think that you’re the one in control. Control is mine. Submission is yours. If you don’t like that, go find a Domme who has the time to baby you.

What I Try to Avoid as a FemDom Goddess

I talked about how I like to Dominate men into submission. Believe it or not, I didn’t always understand what I wanted. (We can all relate in some ways, I think.)

My confidence grows with every successful session, and I have my preference for submissive men to thank for that.

Here are some things that I try to avoid:

• Assuming that a submissive man shares all of my kinks. I’m fluid; most kinks and fetishes make me horny. I won’t come out of the gate humiliating a sub unless he’s into it too. More than likely, we have something else in common that I’ll focus on.

• I’ve started to avoid fetishests/hobbyists and focus on real submissive men who crave attention and aim to please.

• I will not speak to someone who’s not sending me money. Do you value cheap? I don’t. So, how do I know you’ll value me if you get to speak for free?

• I never approach male subs. I attract what I deserve.

• I do not care about what makes someone a “real Domme”. I do exactly what I want. The submissives who vibe with it approach, and the ones who don’t can leave. It does not matter to me. 

Do You Fit the Bill?

Hopefully, my rambling makes sense. I know what I prefer, but it’s case-by-case. Sometimes, I get along amazingly with male subs. We click, have fun, and it’s an excellent experience for everyone. Other times, I avoid those who aren’t the right fit.

Do you think we’d click? Here’s your invitation to introduce yourself.

My rules:

1. Tribute
2. Approach respectfully.
3. Introduce yourself.
4. Share your kinks and fetishes.
5. We can open a discussion about likes/dislikes/expectations.
6. I could care less about what pleases your dick until you’re benefitting me.