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Are you a SextPanther newbie who’s overwhelmed? There are so many beautiful SextPanther models waiting for you to make your move.

But, if you never send that first message, the conversation won’t start flowing. Talk to her with confidence by learning the right way to approach SextPanther models.

By the end of this article, you’ll learn how to sext real adult content creators with confidence.

Keep reading for advice straight from an SextPanther model’s mouth.

How to Sext Real PornStars, Camgirls, and Adult Content Creators on SextPanther

As of this blog post, over 12,000 of the hottest creators own an account on SextPanther. If you want to grab their attention, you have to stand out.

We creators get hundreds of messages that aren’t necessarily serious. So, it’s easy to overlook one-word replies or “hi”. Standing out is as simple as properly introducing yourself, being honest with your expectations, and being fun to talk to.

SP is a great site to text video chat with female and male creators, and get to know your favorite pornstars.

It’s been my favorite adult website for the last year. And, I’m confident you’ll say the same.

Step 1: Read.

First, start by reading her profile. The majority of sexters fail to pay attention to a creator’s bio. It’s an easy way to avoid asking for things that she doesn’t offer. Also, plan your budget around her premium messaging, figure out how much it costs to send and receive pictures, etc.

Her SextPanther bio will have everything you need to know. Whether you pay to sext the FemDom goddess of your dreams, or want a casual girlfriend experience; it all starts with the bio.

Step 2: Add the Model As a Contact

Adding her to your contacts is easy. You click one button, and she’s all yours. Depending on her style, she might message you first to welcome you, or she’ll wait for you to make the first move. Either way, you have to add her if you want to chat with a real pornstar.

Step 3: What should you say first?

Here’s where it gets case-by-case. Sexting women might seem intimidating, but I try my best to make every shy guy comfortable.

Before we chat, I ask my new contact adds about their kinks or fetishes. That lets me see why they’re open to premium sexting and what content they’d like to see.

Really, it’s okay to be honest.

Basically, don’t leave me guessing and wondering what your kinks, fetishes, and interests are.

Give her a little introduction, include your likes and dislikes, and tell her what turns you on. It’s that simple.

Most of the models on SextPanther are seasoned creators with a decent following. If she’s good (and she probably is), she’ll understand exactly what to do next.

How to Prove You’re Sexting a Real Pornstar?

Many men fear chatting with an imposter or a catfish. While that’s reasonable, it’s less likely on a premium chat service like SextPanther. Every creator is verified by ID and social media.

You’re talking to exactly who you think you are.

Do you need more tips? Here are a few ways to see if she’s who she says:

• Ask her for an audio message featuring her voice.
• Ask her to send a video saying your name or username.
• If her premium video chats or phone sex line is open, call her.
• Spend time getting to know her rather than jumping straight into a sexy session.

SextPanther is a *Premium* Sext Service for Real Fans of the Models

Most adult content creators, pornstars, and camgirls get hundreds, if not thousands, of messages per day. That’s impossible for one person to sort through, and I personally won’t even try.

When somebody texts me via SextPanther, they have my full attention. I see that they value my time, and I reward them by giving them the sexiest experience imaginable.

Pay for Exclusivity and One-on-One Attention

Every fan wants to chat with pornstars and content creators, but think of it this way. What value would private messaging me have if I replied to every free message?

Not only is it impossible, but it’s not a exclusive experience. Pay to sext helps me differentiate who’s a fan vs. a freeloader. Therefore, only my true fans get access to me, and SP’s one of only two places to talk to me.

Keep this in mind. If your budget is too short to chat with your favorite pornstar, that’s okay. In short, there are plenty of options for low budgets.

If you can’t pay for premium sexting, try these options instead:

• Subscribe to her OnlyFans and text her.
• Follow for free on LoyalFans, and see if she allows free xxx chat.
• Send her a tip or a tribute on CashApp, and try to start a conversation on social media.
• Find a regular girl who’s willing to text you for free.

Before You Pay to Sext Women, Read the SextPanther TOS

Rules are boring and frustrating, but there are a few important ones to follow. Whether that’s the SextPanther Terms of Service or a model’s own rules, you have to follow them.

Failing to do so could result in getting IP banned from the sexting service. Basically, you will no longer be able to sext with the pornstars on the adult site, so behave!

Recent Updates to SextPanther’s Terms of Service:

As of December 11th, 2023, SextPanther changed their code of conduct.

Here are the updates that both models and users should follow. This is the best way to avoid being banned or blocked by the sexting site or by models themselves.

SextPanther models are not allowed to…

• Knowingly engage with users who have been suspended, blocked, or banned.
• Post or mention external links.
• Include non-consenting voices or images of other people in media messages.
• Engaging with users who have committed credit card fraud is against SextPanther TOS.
• Doxxing and sharing information about other models
• Models need written permission to share other SextPanther models on their Explore Page or in their media.
• Creating a user account to tip yourself is now against the SextPanther TOS.
• Models cannot sell physical items (panties, bathwater, etc.)
• Plagiarism is now explicitly against the terms of service agreement.

SextPanther Rules:

Most of my clients are casual messagers, cucks, submissive men, or one-off sexters. All of that is totally fine. However, I do get a rulebreaker every once in a while, and I have to end our texting session early.

Avoid getting blocked by following some simple rules.

• Don’t harass or bully anyone.
• No asking for anything illegal.
• Asking to go offsite for chatting or payment (Snapchat, Instagram, etc.)
• Models can’t accept CashApp, Venmo, or PayPal.
• Avoid discussing meetups.
• Scroll SP’s full TOS for detailed information.

SextPanther Model Code of Conduct:

The models on SP also have strict rules in the TOS that they need to follow. The Code of Conduct lists every service that they aren’t allowed to offer.

There are no ways around the Code of Conduct. If they get reported or randomly audited by SextPanther, their account could get suspended or banned.

If you ask for something that breaks the TOS, you’re putting their account at risk. Don’t be selfish; follow the terms of service.

Model Rules:

Start with questions and getting to know the model before sexting. You can ask:

• What are your boundaries or limits?
• What do you love in a sext session?
• What’s your favorite thing to do on SextPanther?
• For FemDom Goddesses: How can I please you, Goddess?
• Tipping, unlocking her Feed, and showing genuine interest makes all the difference.

A model’s rules vary, depending on her comfort level. I can only use myself as an example because of this.

What are the rules for chatting with me?

I am comfortable with most things, as long as they’re legal, consensual, and in line with SextPanther TOS. What I love to do is written on my profile, and going by that list of naughty kinks puts you in my good graces automatically.

Mostly, I switch between girlfriend experience and FemDom. I’m happy under those categories for any horny man who’s looking for paid sexting. But, I am quite diverse and always willing to try a sexy new fantasy.

That’s why I describe myself as fetish-friendly. The filthier, the better.

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When you’re ready, log on to SextPanther.com and start chatting. I’m available. *wink*

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Check out my advice for clients page, or keep track of my new XXX content.

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Note: Signing up to my referral page doesn’t put your money in my pocket. SextPanther pays all creators for referrals, and it comes directly out of the site’s pocket.

You earn 100% of the money that you are owed. It’s just a small way to say thank you if I helped you find a way to get paid to chat with men.

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About the Author – Goddess Fiestry

Thank you for reading my blog.

Much like writing, Female Domination is my creative outlet. I use kink as a way to express my sexuality. As I spend time building my influence, new subs make their way to me.

So, here’s a more about Goddess Fiestry & my blog:

• 6 years as an NSFW content creator
• 200+ FemDom clips created in 2022/2023
• A strong interest in chastity, cuckold, gooning, humiliation, and other hot kinks
• Top 6% on LoyalFans frequently
• Frequently top 500 on SextPanther

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Everyone makes mistakes, and depending on the severity, you might get a second chance. Did you mess up your introduction to a model and get the banhammer? Or, you said something that went against the terms of service and receive the dreaded Chaturbate ban?

Keep calm. I’m a Chaturbate model who’s here to help. The camsite has even banned me a couple of times, and I successfully appealed it with their support team. I’ve also been banned from models’ rooms when they thought I had bad intentions, and I’ve accidentally banned good viewers from my room. So, you should consider me the banhammer expert.

Whatever your issue, I have advice to steer you in the right direction.

Scroll to figure out how to get unbanned from your favorite streamer’s room (or the entire camsite).

Did the Actual Camsite Chaturbate Ban You?

If you’re looking for advice on being banned from a cam models’ room, scroll to the next heading. This section is about being unbanned from Chaturbate itself. 

Getting banned on Chaturbate is sudden and unexpected. They won’t send you an email. Rather, the next time you log in, you’ll be notified that you’ve been blocked from their site. To add to the confusion, they almost never explain why.

There are a few negatives to being banned on Chaturbate. Firstly, you’ll lose every piece of content purchased on that account. All of your saved messages, nudes, and xxx videos will be gone. Secondly, anyone you follow, you will have to find again. That’s a problem if you follow hundreds of models. I can keep listing the issues with receiving a permaban, but I’m sure you get it.

Before you try to appeal the ban, ask yourself the following questions.

Are You a Notorious Rule Breaker on Chaturbate?

The rules on most popular camsites are pretty straightforward, but viewers often find themselves trying to bypass them. You might get away with it the first few times. Eventually, your luck will run out.

One thing that confuses members: even roleplaying these things is against the terms of service. You cannot mention them at all. The boundary pushers have a real issue with this, and that’s where they get into trouble.

Read the rules before you try to appeal your ban:

• No minors, no users under 18.
• No meetups.
• Harrassing and threatening the cam models is bad.
• Illegal activity (drugs, incest, beastiality, etc.) is prohibited.
• Raceplay and racism is a no.
• Extreme violence, including asking for blood, choking, CNC, knives, and guns will get you banned.
• Familiarize yourself with the rest of the terms of service here.

Breaking these rules means that there’s a strong chance that you won’t be able to recover your account. Try to appeal with the support team with an apology explaining your ignorance, but keep your expectations in check.

Was Your Account Reported and Banned on Chaturbate?

False reports happen all the time. You’re in a public chatroom with other jealous members, and they’re report-happy to get you away from their favorite model. It’s possible that you were reported and received a ban on Chaturbate by mistake.

Sometimes, CB relies on an AI to do the heavy lifting for them. The AI might take multiple reports as a reason to block your account, even if you’re innocent. It’s a good idea to message their support team to get human eyes on your case. If you didn’t break any rules, they’ll more than likely lift the block on your profile.

Have You Logged into the Camsite in the Past Year?

Logging into Chaturbate frequently is necessary to avoid getting banned. But, it’s fortunately easy to appeal. This is simply a way to keep your credit card information safe, and support never took too long to bring my account back after a time-related ban.

Here is the fastest way to contact CB to attempt to be unbanned.

What Can You Do to Reverse a Chaturbate Ban?

Originally, I thought the only way to reverse being banned on Chaturbate was via their support team. After some research, I found other ways! Read this article by DoNotPay. They seem to be a site that’s on the user’s side, who’s willing to step up for your rights.

According to them, they’ll draft a letter to put legal pressure on CB. If you’re genuinely distressed or missing out of hundreds of purchases videos or photos, I can see this working. This is especially if you’re innocent.

While this is a great resource for cam viewers, that is also great news for models. When we get banned from Chaturbate, they keep our tokens. Often, they fail to explain what rules we broke, and even more often, we did nothing wrong. Even I, an extreme stickler when it comes to rules, got a ban from Chaturbate twice.

Were You Banned From a Cam Model’s Stream?

You’re not the first or the last member to be banned from a model’s room. It happens all the time for all sorts of reasons, and I’ll go through a few below. While you might be confused, the model’s reasoning might be perfectly clear from her end. As always, respect her boundaries, and don’t be a stalker.

Reasons Why I Block Users From My Camroom

My energy is sensitive, plain and simple. If someone gives me the wrong vibe, I’ll ban them. No matter what their intentions are, if I don’t like them, I will not pretend. Some reasons why I’ll ban users from my room include:

• You said something against the terms of service, and explaining that to you puts my Chaturbate cam model account at risk.
• I sensed that you’re the type to push boundaries.
• You insulted one of my other viewers, especially if they’re a big tipper.
• You expected too much out of me for too little tokens.
• Something that was said pissed me off or made me uncomfortable.
• We don’t have the same interests, kinks, or fetishes.

Most of the time, I’ll give one warning or express my boundaries. When a member chooses to ignore that warning, they get hit with the banhammer.

Remember, you’re not the only one in my chatroom. I have to conserve my energy to talk to hundreds of members, and dealing with a troll or a viewer with an attitude saps my energy quickly. Rather than deal with it, I simply ban and move on.

Mistakes Happen: If You’re Innocent, Be Generous and StraightForward

I have banned users on Chaturbate before accidentally! One case that I recall is that a user I wanted to ban and an innocent tipper had similar usernames. Every letter was the same, and there was one different number. While they may have been the same person, their personalities and kinks/fetishes were so different that I believe it was a weird coincidence.

When I banned the wrong user, I quickly found out, and he came straight back to my room to thank me for unbanning him. It made me feel bad, but mistakes do happen. Keep this in mind, especially if you’re sure that you’re not a rulebreaker

Consider Accepting the Chaturbate Ban and Moving On

We can’t win them all. Sometimes, it’s best for your mental health and the cam model to move on. If she won’t give you an answer, there’s no point in prying. Also, being a legitimate stalker after being banned by a camgirl looks bad for you and could lead to legal consequences. Be the bigger person, and move on from the ban.

Interested in Some Chaturbate Alternatives?

While Chaturbate is my personal favorite, there are other great camsites, porn websites, and options for adult entertainment. While you’re waiting for your CB to be unbanned, try some new xxx sites. Whatever catches your fancy, you’re welcome to leave a comment below and ask me anything.

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Every Twitter (or X, rather) user is aware of the state of the social media site nowadays. Don’t let bad decisions cockblock you. If you’re a fan of adult content creators, you may have heard us speaking negatively about Elon Musk’s actions. I’ll be straightforward: follow your favorite porn creators anywhere possible.

You never know when we’ll wake up, and the CEO will hatch another bird-brained (bird app?) plan. His next endeavors could easily tank the world of porn. (And in my opinion, they definitely have) As soon as we adult content creators stop making money on Twitter, we will jump ship. Don’t wait; be proactive!

Update: My foresight knows no bounds! I wrote this post weeks ago as of October 12th, 2023, but I decided to post it early. Why? Twitter is flagging NSFW creators and choosing not to show their pages in the For You page or the Follow page.

I’m not trying to be smug, but I knew something was fishy. I’ll update this blog as more information becomes available.

More updates will be available at the end of this blog post.

I’ll give you ideas, words of warning, words of comfort, and tips to keep up with your faves outside of Twitter.

Follow Porn Creators on Their Free Links.

Don’t procrastinate. Many porn creators, camgirls, phone sex operators, etc. have websites that allow free follow. If you’re not ready to pay, that’s okay! But, anyone is capable of following their favorite creators for free.

Find Her Official Website (If She Has One)

First, look for her official website. She more than likely made that as a backup plan, and it’ll have her most up-to-date links. It’s becoming an adult industry standard to have an official website. So, if you see one, subscribe to her newsletter, put it in your RSS Feed for updates, or check back often.

The best part about an official website: You should expect it to remain the same basically forever. It’s not common practice to change your domain name, unless you’re doing a full rebrand. In short, expect the creator to use the exact same dot com name for their entire career.

Free to Follow Porn Websites

Check if the pornstars you view have a free OnlyFans or PornHub. Those are the popular adult sites that doesn’t require you to pay. While Twitter hosts a more convenient feed, direct follows are the best way to get in touch with individuals.

Here are some more free porn sites to look for:

• XHamster
• XVideos
• LoyalFans – Free to Follow
• ManyVids – Free to Follow and Watch Live Camgirls
• SextPanther – Free to Add Contact
• Free Live Cam, like Chaturbate, StripChat, BongaCams, etc.

It may be overwhelming to have an account with dozens of different porn websites, but there are solutions. If you’re a younger adult, you may have never heard of an RSS Feed. But, it’s a great way to pull all of your fave porn websites from the web and put them onto one solid feed.

Just take your link, and add it to the feed. It’ll automatically read new posts for you and have them in one place.

I use Feeder to read favorite websites for free (with some limits, heads up!).

Leave a comment if you have suggestions.

Twitter Alternatives: Find Your Favorite Pornstars on Other Social Media

It’s common for sex workers to have a backup plan. Most of us have at least two social media accounts, and we try to utilize the same username. For example, find me (Fiestry) on Instagram, Reddit, and Tumblr. I’m not as active on other social media as Twitter, but it were to go up in flames, I’d move to other platforms.

Other sex workers have the same plan. Look for her on every popular social media, and follow her. Check back to see where she’s most active, and make that your main source to view her updates.

Keep in mind, her posting habits may be different from X due to the terms of service on each app. (Sadly, nudes and explicit material isn’t allowed on Instagram, and Tumblr is funny about it. Twitter and Reddit are king for explicit nudes)

Most of the time, it’s easy to find her by:

• Googling her username
• Clicking her Linktree or official website
• Following her mutuals on Instagram, Tumblr, or Reddit; and waiting for her to pop up.

Other popular Twitter alternatives include:

• BlueSky Social
• Mastodon
• Threads
• Mastodon
• Spill

Ask Adult Content Creators for Their Twitter Alternatives

Have you tried everything, but you still can’t find alternative websites run by your favorite adult content creators? If her DM’s are open, ask. Or, tag her on Twitter. If she sees it, she’ll be happy to provide you with alternative ways to get in touch.

Don’t Let Twitter Executives Cockblock You.

Or rather, the one executive who makes all of the decisions. Be proactive, and start following us now. You never know when the day will come.

I hope this helps!

Update October 13th, 2023

Our engagement bounced back from the NSFW ban scare! This is great news. But, my advice still stands. Be sure that you’re able to find your favorite creators wherever they might be.

We have no control over social media, and anything can happen at any time.

Creators, don’t put all of your eggs in one basket.

Fans, try to at least follow us on backup social media. You don’t have to use it… until you need it. <3