A space for the Dommes of YouTube to share their channels. Any 18+ Female Domme on YT is welcome to share their content here by posting links and trailers.
I’m sure you’ll enjoy sharing this space with me and the other beautiful Dommes who decide to pop in~ The communities are brand new and growing. So, join and spread the word.
You’re welcome to suggest these spaces to your favorite FemDom creator. See you soon~
There seems to be a fairly large BDSM community who loves this site. After doing some exploring, I see a forum, a feed for writing tasks, and explore pages.
Write For Me seems to revolve around female domination and similar tasks for submissives. However, I do see other communities budding in the forums.
I suggest exploring to see what it has to offer.
A couple of my male subs helped me test it out, and it seems legit! I’m always looking for new ways to occupy that weak subby mind. I’m happy with it so far.
How to Use WriteForMe for Submissive Tasks
So far, I’ve created three public tasks on WriteForMe:
1. The task setter creates a prompt. The prompt may include:
Lines, anywhere from 1 to an unknown amount.
Punishments for mistakes and interruptions.
Interruptions to distract from the task.
A reward at the end.
2. The typer then types the exact words on the prompt and completes the task.
3. The task setter chooses whether to get an email from the typer’s completed work.
Plus, the typer gets to deliver a private message and their reward.
It’s easy and fun. So far, I’ve been using it in many ways to keep my male subs occupied.
Read more about my plans for WriteForMe in the next section.
Demonstrate Your Loyalty: My Plans
A site that’s so versatile makes my creativity start blooming. Here’s what I have so far.
A Male Sub’s Proof of Dedication
I get dozens of messages daily from potential submissives. It’s hard to distinguish the real male subs from fake ones.
With WriteForMe, demonstrate your commitment to me by completing simple (or difficult) writing tasks for submissives. It’s a great way for you to show me upfront that you are worthy.
Submissive Tasks for Punishment (and Funishment)
My other plan for WriteForMe involves punishment. Unworthy or disobedient submissives will have to complete these writing tasks if they want to keep access to me.
I will not make them easy.
How I plan to use WriteForMe for punishments:
Lengthy lines and writing prompts
Humiliating interruptions
Harsh punishments for mistakes
Strict rules to follow
Failing to complete these submissive tasks come with consequences. If you don’t want to risk losing access to me, be a good boy, or complete your punishment.
My Favorites: Manipulation, Chastity, Cuckold, and Mind Control
I’ve also been using WriteForMe to act out my favorite fetishes. Manipulation, mind control, and daily mantras are so easy to set.
It’s an easier way for me to set submissive tasks for daily mantras and monitor your progress.
Typically, my mantras are shorter with few interruptions. I want my submissives to focus on the mantra itself, not worrying about mistakes.
Join Me on WriteForMe
If you are looking for a way to demonstrate your commitment as my submissive, I present you with WriteForMe.
The kink is popular because a lot of women believe that it’s free/easy money. They snap their fingers and expect to be paid. While that is the nature of the fetish, it’s a lot more than what meets the eye.
Research BDSM. Understand the root of the fetish you want to provide. Figure out what attracts finsubs, paypigs, human wallets, financial service subs. Hint: It’s not just “f- you, pay me”.
Create content that resonates with your take on FinDom, not because it’s popular, but because you want to attract potential finsubs that prioritize your needs.
These were the top 10 most popular payment methods during March.
Put yourself in the right spaces. The point of doing so is to learn about FinDom, and attract subs that you’d allow to serve you. Putting on a persona isn’t a good idea; imo it leads to burnout quickly.
Letting your naturally Dominant, feminine energy shine yields the most success. Haven’t explored your inner Domme before?
I’d suggest learning what you want and prioritizing your wants above all else. If all else fails, dealing with swarms of timewasters will make or break your ability to say “You’re not worth my time. Goodbye.”
In the Mood to Make Your Paycheck Mine?
I’ll gladly take that cash out of your hands.
I promise, I’m much better at spending it than you are. Be a good boy, and fill up my bank account.
Cheating, not to be confused with cucking, is the act out going outside of your relationship to get emotional or sexual gratification. In the context of it being a kink or fetish, they get off on the idea of doing so.
It’s typical for people to sexualize the experiences they have in life. Going by that statement, it’s easy to see why someone may have a cheating fetish. Both women and men can have it.
Depending on why they do, it may be a type of power play or a way to deal with past events.
The attraction to a cheating fetish may include:
Secrecy
The idea of being caught
Revenge on your partner
Wandering eyes
There is a difference between having a kink/fetish and being an actual cheater. I’ve had single fans who got off on the idea of cheating.
The experience is more important in this context.
On the other hand, homewrecking is also a thing in the BDSM community. These types of people may seek out men/women with partners.
“But for some women, the taboo of somebody else’s partner cheating is a turn on. These women get off on being a so-called temptress, luring men away from their partners.” – Quote From Vice
Both are misconstrued and lumped in with cuckolding. Cucking is consensual. I’d lump cheating in with noncon in my opinion. This is something I’d like to discuss with other kinksters.
As a Domme, I shy away from cheating fetish, and it’s something I’ve been trying to learn how to turn it in my favor.
Mental Domination is my biggest turn on. I understand how cheating and Mental Domme-ing go hand in hand.
Every once in a while, I’ll get a fan. Like I said before, they’ll be single but get off on cheating. If in their minds, they’re prioritizing getting away with it without their partners knowing, then it’s a form of power exchange.
Despite it being shamed, and even normalized in society, that’s why I won’t partake with a sub I don’t trust.
The longer the relationship, the more comfortable I am with opening those doors.
For a submissive male who’s new to the world of BDSM, finding answers is intimidating. Whether or not you are actually a sub is one of the first questions to ask.
Why do you fantasize about powerful women? Where will this preference lead you? How do you find the right Domme? All of these questions have an answer, and your journey to submission starts here.
On the bright side, there are millions of excellent resources available to help you explore your kinks. This guide, written by a female Domme in hopes that it crosses paths with an interested male sub, is one of them.
What Is the Definition of a Submissive Male?
A submissive male, also known as a “sub”, is a man who prefers to be subservient and obedience to their Domme. The act of submission is a form of BDSM (Bondage/discipline, Dominance/submission, Sadism/masochism).
A male submissive can come in all shapes and sizes, but it boils down to giving control to the Dominant partner.
It’s important to realize that submission to a partner does not equal femininity. Can a submissive be feminine? Yes. But, it’s not a requirement to do so. It’s less about the person’s gender identity and more about what they want sexually or in a relationship.
Anyone who can legally consent is able to submit, regardless of their sexuality or gender identity.
Is Being Submissive Online Authentic or Fake?
It is true that submission in real life is nuanced and complex. Think of it in terms of a long distance relationship. Despite there being miles between two partners, they still experience the feelings, commitment, and complexities of a relationship.
With a long-distance relationship still being valid to the two partners, comparing that to online submission is the easy way to say: Yes, submitting to a Domme virtually is valid. It takes just as much effort, and submissives who enjoy online interactions aren’t fake.
Most submissive males prefer talking to FemDoms virtually due to privacy, safety, and personal concerns.
For many, BDSM is taboo. Many people can’t live loud and proud with their kinks for various reasons. Those reasons may include:
A career demanding privacy
A community (family, friends, etc.) who wouldn’t accept it
Fear of being harshly judged or ostracized by their community
Fear of disappointing their loved ones
They don’t want others to see them as a weak or odd person
Sex shame
Denial
Some people don’t want their sexual habits to be public
Some people simply value their privacy
All of these reasons are valid! There’s no comfort in airing your dirty laundry to the world. So, submitting on the internet is the solution that many male subs take to secure themselves.
The safest avenue for a submissive male who values anonymity includes signing up to a verified site, using an anonymous username, and not sharing information that’s too personal.
Just because you are a submissive male doesn’t mean that your safety should be compromised.
Overall, you’ll never be able to know if someone is Dominant or submissive just by looking at them. Yes, one can infer, and it’s usually easier to do so with more experience. But, we shouldn’t assume things about people we don’t know.
Instead, you can ask yourself the following questions.
Are you particularly interested in women with authority?
Would you not mind if a partner controlled your relationship and sex life?
Do you want powerful women to Dominate you sexually?
Does the thought of following orders get your dick hard?
When I say “subservience,” does that intrigue you?
Do successful Dommes make you weak at the knees?
Are you horny when a confident woman tells you what to do?
Does the thought of being disciplined turn you on?
If the answer to any of these questions is yes, you may be a submissive man. Welcome to your sexy new world of BDSM. Here’s a masterlist of kinks for you to explore.
The Masculine Desire to Serve Online Dommes
A submissive male is not inherently feminine. What’s effeminate about being a provider, anticipating the needs of your partner, and fulfilling her every desire? If anything, the ability to provide is a strongly masculine trait.
A submissive has a choice when he interacts with online Dommes. He can let his useless ego get the best of him and try to control the situation. Or, he can thrive in an online relationship with a FemDom.
A female led relationship fulfills everyone’s needs. But, if you aren’t willing to relinquish that control, you will never benefit from a FemDom Goddess.
When you approach her, you are the one asking for the favor. If she decides that you are worth the effort, be thankful.
Why Is FemDom So Popular?
On almost every corner of the internet, you can find FemDom. From my observations, it’s getting more popular every year. This could be for a few reasons:
More submissive men are becoming comfortable with the thought of being Dominated.
More women are intrigued at the thought of being in control.
Women are tired of men being in a position of power and express that sexually.
Men are tired of being the ones in control of their jobs, home life, and other responsibilities; leading to them needing an escape.
Female led relationships are hot.
So with Dommes taking back more power, and male subs willingly giving up their power, you get a surge in female dominance. As a dominant woman myself, I have no complaints. 😉
The First Time I Turned the Tables on a Submissive Man
For the longest time, I knew that I was a switch. But, I never got the opportunity to properly dominate a male sub. When I finally got comfortable enough to try it, it was with a man who enjoyed small penis humiliation.
Before we continue, imagine this.
I am a strongly body positive person. It’s hard to get me to call someone ugly, lesser than, disgusting, or a loser. However, once I realized that consent is key, it was a gamechanger.
So, my first time flipping the script on a male submissive changed my entire outlook. It was fun, and he let me explore that dominant side with very little protest.
On the other end of things, I always wanted to dominate men who weren’t naturally submissive. Think, partners “trying something new” in bed or exploring kinks together. There was never a feeling of them being into it, so we stopped pretty quickly.
But, my first experience with a truly subservient man changed my outlook on relationships. I understood that their dedication, eagerness to please, and willingness to follow my commands couldn’t be faked.
I never looked back after that.
Read about my other kinks, fetishes, and preferences.
The Power Dynamic Is Appealing, but How Will You Serve?
Getting back to the power dynamic, how can you tell? If you’re a submissive man, what should you do to express that to a potential Domme?
Here are a few tips:
Messaging every Domme, dick in hand, thinking about all of the ways she’s going to make you blow your load; erase that from your brain.
It’s not about your cock.
The attraction revolves around more than the power dynamic. If you message a Domme, expecting them to please you, you might as well be trying to date in the vanilla world.
No Domme is going to be attracted to yet another man using her as a cum vessel. Put your best foot forward.
Ask yourself:
How will you be useful? What can you do to make her day better and meet her desires? In what ways can you, as a submissive man, show that it’s less about you and more about her?
How my submissives take initiative, show their masculinity, and serve me at the same time:
Picking up my tab on any bill for the month.
Public adoration, especially on Twitter.
Listening to my requests and obeying them completely.
One of my rules is, don’t ask if you aren’t willing to give. A new habit should be giving before asking.
Sending money if my mood seems off for the day.
Anticipating my desires without having to ask.
Allowing me to control parts of their real-life, usually in the form of self-improvement, work success, financial improvement, and being a better, healthier person. (Of course, this all trickles back to me.)
What Do Dominant Females Want From a Male Sub?
When looking for a male sub, Dominant women consider different qualities. Some Domme’s like to focus on physical characteristics, while others like a man who is respectful and obedient.
Before dedicating yourself to the hottest Domme you see search for signs that you are compatible.
Not everyone is into your particular fetishes, so consider that before approaching the wrong FemDom. However, that shouldn’t make you shy away. The best thing you can do is be upfront and ask. Communication is key.
How to Communicate With a New Potential Domme
If you are completely new to the act of submission, your first approach is nerve-wracking. You found a beautiful FemDom Goddess whose authority leaks through the screen. How do you introduce yourself?
Communication tips for new submissive males:
Bad behavior won’t get you anything but the bare minimum and/or blocked.
If you say you’re submissive, act like it. Or, you can simply leave me alone. 🫶🏼— 🦋My FBI Agent Loves My Tits🦋 (@fiestry) November 14, 2023
1. Introduce yourself, and give respect.
Check if she requires a tribute to even begin a conversation. If she does, send before speaking. When you’re ready, a respectful introduction that mentions your particular kinks, preferences, and how you’d like to explore them helps. If you’d like to be more casual or get to know her, be upfront with that as well.
2. Ask questions.
Asking questions does two things.
One, it shows her your interest by making an effort to learn more about her.
Two, you get to gauge whether you two are a good fit.
3. Be honest.
Open communication keeps confusion at bay. If you are upfront about your interests and limits, she’ll understand you better. Like in a regular relationship, keeping secrets (especially if they are essential to play) can potentially damage the Domme/sub dynamic.
4. Listen.
Her responses will tell you everything you should know. To stay on the same page, ask for clarification when needed. When she gives advice or tries to direct you, show that you understand.
5. Be patient.
Depending on the Domme/sub dynamic, think of approaching as the start of a relationship. Trust isn’t instant, nor should it be. Take your time exploring how the two of you get along, and don’t expect for things to be perfect overnight.
Who are you trying to impress with that ugly beta body? Losers like you need to be knocked down a few pegs. The power exchange between us will be ruthless. You think that you can show me your disgusting body, and I would… lie to you?
This was a custom video. The submissive beta in question wanted me to rate his body. I’d already given him a dick rating before, and he wanted to go a step further. He knew how to get attention from me: letting me humiliate his disgusting body.
As a nude FemDom creator, it never crossed my mind to make beta-safe porn.
While all of my male subs express some sense of inferiority, our play sessions always turned me on. Then, I met my first beta. It was obvious that this man did not deserve pussy.
Not in a “lock him in chastity and throw away the key” manner. No, we had to take it a step further.
He’s not allowed to look at tits or pussy. That’s how low on the scale this beta is. At least my cucks get to watch me fuck. Meanwhile, I’d hesitate to send this submissive beta a censored picture of my panties.
Such is the context of this new video. Beta-safe porn is a necessity now. If I come across another low-tier male such as him, I’ll be prepared next time~
Do Submissive Men Deserve Pussy?
Now, that’s quite a question~
I come across many hot male subs. They’re usually young, hung, and ready to please me. Would I give them pussy? Probably not, but they’re allowed to dream about it.
Then, I have a couple of favorites. We play often, formed a real relationship, and I could almost call them friends. They never ask for pussy because that’s not what they want. What makes them so special is their daily effort. They want their Goddess to feel worshipped.
Then, there’s you, beta.
You fantasize about being my favorite, don’t you? It makes you weak at the knees. Imagine the benefits. My attention, the ability to express your undying adoration, and the perks of playing with a beautiful Goddess.
Instead, you get rejection.
Verbal Humiliation.
Bodyshaming.
And pure disgust from me.
It’s your fault for being born that way, I suppose~
I think it’s a combination of exposure therapy and being one of the easiest ways to humiliate a man. Humiliation in general is a fetish, and SPH is the male-centric version of that.
While verbal humiliation is my preference, there are also physical ways to humiliate a person’s smaller dick. CBT is a fun way to share that fetish of yours with a good Domme.
I’m not trying to generalize, but men are obsessed with their dicks. Even if they think it’s useless, they just want you to talk about it and acknowledge it. I also think that SPH takes the pressure off of them being a “sex god” with a power exchange in the woman’s favor.
Out of all the SPH guys I’ve met, 1/4 of them didn’t even have a small dick. I’m not sure if they were aware, but who am I to ruin our fun?
Back when I wasn’t comfortable with Domination, I even tried to reason with a few of them. “You know it’s not actually small, right?” They’d ghost lmfao.
I’m assuming you mean where can you find LoyalFans followers?
The platform has internal discoverability. If you’re active, posting, going live, etc.; they are pushing you to their internal traffic.
Unlike OnlyFans, you don’t have to grind on social media to grow a following (but it does help!). Also, *followers* on LF are free, and *subscribers* are the ones who see your paid content.
Using my profile as an example, I’ll tell you how to convert impressions into followers:
Have a clear, detailed, and well-written profile. It should include your body type, kinks/fetishes, and special little tidbits about you. Be unique and interesting.
Your pinned post should include additional information as well as a short, *unsatisfying* teaser.
Have the *occassional* free post to give them a reason to scroll your page.
Don’t forget that you can link your posts to each other internally. Keep viewers on your page for more than a couple of seconds, and they’re more likely to engage.
Use hashtags. Do your research on the most effective ones on LoyalFans, especially since it’s mostly kink/fetish/FemDom-based.
Post consistently, and don’t act like a bot. My fans love to read whatever fantasy I brewed up that day. Take advantage of your ability to use your words, and get creative.
Offer an incentive for followers and subscribers.
On top of all of these, be consistent. I post daily because I’m a psycho workaholic, but be clear with your followers. Will you post daily, a couple of times a week, monthly? Let them know!
Not everybody is brave enough to share their naughty kinks and fetishes face to face. So, what’s the next best thing? Premium sexting sites are the perfect, anonymous way to find a sexting partner fast.
Sending a dirty text is the best way to communicate your sexual desires.
Who doesn’t love sexting? It’s surprisingly intimate, passes the time when you’re bored, and you get to dive deep into a fantasy. You get to explore yourselves and each other without the full pressure of a sexual encounter.
There are plenty of websites to look for a quick dirty chat. But the top premium sexting sites for men include:
But, I want to emphasize that it’s not about desire, or your levels of attractiveness, or you as a person. The benefits of free vs. paid sexting are simple when you put it in the right perspective.
You want somebody to text *now*.
If you’re in a rush and don’t have a partner, it’s hard to find women to sext. You have to hop on Tinder, Bumble, or any other dating site; go through that nightmare; and when you finally get a match, she’s not down for anything immediate.
Premium sexting is a way to get what you want fast. Most adult content creators offer sexting services, and it’s as easy as clicking a button.
Experience with kinks, fetishes, and fantasies.
You may have found a partner to sext, but is she in the mood? Does she share the same sexual quirks as you? Did she reject one of your more kinky offers?
Models who offer pay-to-sext are lenient, and they usually include a list of kinks and fetishes on their bio or tip menu. You don’t have to guess what she’s into. It’s right there in an easy-to-read format.
Also, her experience with the kink or fetish could introduce you to something new and sexy. She doesn’t have to fake it for your sake.
No strings attached sexting
When two people spend a lot time getting to know each other, things happen. This causes a lot of anxiety for people who just want to have fun. If things between you and your old texting partner, premium sexting might be the better option.
Professional adult content creators avoid catching feelings. They won’t start blowing up your phone asking where you’ve been or who you’re with. Outside of targeted messages to get you to come back for a fun time, they most likely won’t bother you.
Note: If you’re looking to build a relationship, paid sexts aren’t the right call.
On the other hand, there is the possibility for you to catch feelings. No strings attached goes both ways. It’s okay to foster a genuine connection to boost the fantasy, but it shouldn’t be taken too far. If you’re going to use pay-to-play adult sites, the professionalism goes both ways.
How to Use OnlyFans to Sext Online
One of the top paid websites for a quick sexting session is OnlyFans. While it’s common for users to subscribe, scroll, and log off; there’s the possibility to get more out of your subscription.
When it comes to It’s easy to use, and popular, and most women on the site offer free or paid sexts. You can initiate, and they’ll immediately get the message. No bullshit or beating around the bush; send a quick xxx message any of your favorite OnlyFans girls.
However, a strong fear exists in many members. They’re worried that the model isn’t who she says she is, and it’s a possibility. It’s common for OnlyFans girls with huge followings to hire management companies or assistants to answer their messages. Soon, I’ll show you ways to bypass your fears and prove you’re speaking to the real model.
If OnlyFans isn’t your thing, read about more options below.
SextPanther: The Fast Sexting Site With Real Pornstars
Plenty of xxx websites let you sext online. But, it’s about finding the quickest, best session for your money. For example, my favorite site is SextPanther where I share my naughty fantasies with other horny members.
On SextPanther, you and the model (usually a popular pornstar!) share texts, videos, audio, and pictures. It’s great for getting in touch with highly desired women whose inboxes are flooded due to their popularity.
When you deliver a message on SP, you get to the top of an SP creator’s DM’s for fast replies, and she sees that you’re serious about her.
Learn more about how to approach models on SextPanther.
Why do I consider SextPanther to be a great option for a quick, dirty chat? Every piece of media that is shared, you get to keep. If you like to collect nudes or xxx videos, they stay on your account forever. Unlike Snapchat, you get to look back on your old nudes and enjoy them forever.
The majority of the pornstars and camgirls are fetish and kink friendly too. I’m included in that list. I love the freaks; they’re the most fun.
Every camgirl, pornstar, and adult content creator is a 100% verified model via ID. They also need a decent social media following for approval. For example, they approved me (I assume!) because of my RedGifs Creator of the Month title, as well as my decent following on Twitter, Chaturbate, and ManyVids. Because of those rules, there’s a higher ratio of real adult stars on SextPanther, compared to other pay to sext websites.
To me, that makes it one of the best sexting sites for men with particular fetishes, nude collectors, and casual chatters.
How to Prove She’s a Real Pornstar on SextPanther
As far as I know, few girls use management agencies on this pay-to-sext site. While *I* personally, don’t, I can’t speak for everyone. Here are some ways to prove that she’s real:
Relax, and realize that 100% of the horny girls on SP are ID verified (it’s the law) and ready for you.
Do Verified Models Use Other Sexting Sites?
While SextPanther is a place to reach me fast, I also sext on LoyalFans. Most other models and I allow subscribers to message for free. In this case, it may be a cheaper option for committed sexters.
If you don’t want a premium subscription just to send a sext online, most LoyalFans creators allow their free followers to chat. Whatever your preference, there’s an option out there catered for you.
Do You Recommend Other Sexting Sites?
While SextPanther is one of the best sexting websites, I have heard of others. Some I can recommend, and others I have no experience. I will not recommend a site that I’m inexperienced with, but I can point you in the right directly. However, they all seem trustworthy if you’re concerned about privacy.
Selling sexting services on ManyVids is less popular, but it’s possible. You can navigate to an MV Girl’s Items Store if you want to check for what she offers. I’ve only sexted a handful of guys there, so I’m not sure if that should be your first choice.
Arousr, Adult Friend Finder, and Jerkmate
When it comes to other sexting websites, I’ve personally never signed up for them. I’m unsure of their user experience or how guys feel about them. However, I am adding their names here just in case they interest you.
You might see something you like, who knows!
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While live cams aren’t specifically for sending sexts online, finding the right camgirl is life-changing. I suggest finding a room with fewer viewers, so you get the benefit of one-on-one attention.
There is an option on every live camsite to take the women to a private session. While she does her naughty thing, you can put dirty words in her chatroom to encourage her.
My favorite site is Chaturbate. As a camgirl, I love entertaining a room full of guys, but I don’t mind if one takes me to private. The one-on-one feels more intimate, and it’s sexier that way. It’s easier to focus on one guy’s kinks, and more fun to explore each other.
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Keep in mind: SP wants you to have a good adult-oriented following before they’ll accept you. If you’ve grown a social media, OnlyFans, PornHub, or other adult website; you should good approved. However, sometimes they reject people for reasons unknown. I’m happy to discuss it with you before you sign up.
